KEY 8: WILLINGNESS
Step Eight: “[We] made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.”
Key Eight: “I acknowledge the people I have offended based on false beliefs, fear, doubt and unworthiness. I am willing to go to any lengths to clean up my side of the street.”
The Work
Set your intention by saying quietly to yourself or out loud:
“I am willing to make a list of all I have intentionally or unintentionally harmed. I am willing to be guided by my inner wisdom.”
“I am willing to list anyone toward whom I have a feeling of dis-ease or discomfort.”
Contemplate
My willingness to clear up my contribution to a negative situation sets me free.
My willingness to see from another’s perspective opens the door to divine understanding.
There’s always more than one side to the story. There’s my side, the other person’s side—and the truth. What’s the real truth around the damaged relationships in my life?
Humility is not humiliation. Humility places me in a position of immense power because it removes the attitude of “I’m right and your wrong,” clears out the noise and connects me to the willingness to restore peace no matter whose fault it is. Humility restores my awareness to its original state of truth and love.
I am humbly willing to do anything for my spiritual freedom.
Journal
Revisit your Journal entry for Key #4. Recall the people you identified as sources of difficulty or dis-ease in your life.
How do you feel about making amends to the people listed in your Key #4?
How do you feel about your current relationships to these people? Do you feel violated by the idea of making amends if they’re the ones who have caused the most harm?
Is any of this true—or is that just fear talking?
Even if it is true, and you are not the cause of harm, is being right or being the victim worth holding onto, or are you willing to give that up in order to obtain your freedom and power?
How far are you willing to go to be restored to wholeness?
Affirmations
Key Eight: “I acknowledge the people I have offended based on false beliefs, fear, doubt and unworthiness. I am willing to go to any lengths to clean up my side of the street.”
“In the realm of Spirit, we are all one—therefore, acknowledging my part in the drama sets us all free.”
Action Steps
On a piece of paper, make four columns. In the first column, list the names of people and even institutions (i.e., organizations, banks, the government) that you listed under “resentment” in Key #4. In the second column, refer to the “My Contribution” column associated with that particular name in Key #4, feeling free to add to or clarify as you go. In the third column, under “Amends,” list the action steps you’re willing to take to set that particular situation or relationship right. In the fourth column, under “I Forgive,” list the ways you’re willing to forgive yourself for your contribution to this specific issue.